Today’s dating scene can be very challenging for singles who are seeking a traditional, long term relationship. The lack of structure and constantly changing social norms make it hard to tell who shares your wish for a conventional relationship, and who could potentially wreak havoc with your heart . The “10 Commandments” below are here to help you approach dating in a steady, measured way that lets you get to know people before getting too vulnerable. Although we’re calling them commandments, think of them more guidelines- of course we all know someone who has met their life partner and slept with them on the first date, and 20 years later they’re still happily married. But more often than not, clients come to me because they are struggling to set healthy boundaries in today’s complicated dating world. The guidelines below are to help you think about what’s best for you, and maybe try something different if you haven’t yet had that “hooray moment” of finding your life partner using your current techniques.